Instagram has become one of my favorite guilty obsessions. I love scrolling through the amazing images, reading the thoughtful and inspiring captions and giving that double-tape heart love. I was in the midst of doing just that today when I found this little gem and it sparked me to wonder What I Love About Me…
Heather explains that this image was sparked by her friend’s daughter’s struggle with self-worth. I went through a similar struggle with my daughter last year regarding her self-image. She was allowing herself to question who she wanted to be because she wanted others to like her – to be her friends. I think this is something all of us [women] have struggled with at some point. Men too but you know since I’m a girl and all – I’ll talk about us.
I dealt with the issue with my daughter and have since made it a point to always encourage her choices, desires and passions. I teach her that no matter what others think how she sees herself it was truly matters. She is who she is and I will love her always and in all ways. Yet why is it so hard for me to do the very same for myself?
[tweetthis]”…no matter what others think, how you see yourself is what truly matters.”[/tweetthis]
Self-love seems to be something I’ve always struggled with. As a child I was that nerd girl but instead of embracing it I ran from it.
First I tried to simply disappear into the shadows. “If they don’t notice me that won’t pick with me.”
*Didn’t work.
Then I tried to be like them. “If I act just like they do they’ll accept me”
*Fail.
Lastly I decided I would simply be bold and be me. “Whoever is meant to be my friend, will be.”
I hate how long it took for me to get to that decision but I am so happy I finally got there. It took years. Seriously people I was well into my late twenties before I realized that trying to be like them or invisible was too hard. It took so much effort I would be emotionally drained at the end of every day.
The moment I realized that once I accepted me others would too. Mind Blown! The entire time I was trying to not be me I was making it painfully obvious to everyone around me that I wasn’t ready. I wasn’t ready to be liked because I didn’t even like myself.
When I saw Heather’s post today it was after a week of second-guessing myself, my skills, my choices – me. I was sliding back into what seems to be my comfort zone of disbelief in who I can be. When I tell you her words hit me like a brick! If you see my comment my answer to her questions of one thing I like about me was as follows:
“I love that I’m a bit wonky and quirky but it just adds to who I am..”
It’s so amazing how the very thing we advise others to do seems to be the most difficult to do ourselves. I have a motto in one of my bios which basically tells everyone to embrace who they are and their uniqueness. Yet doing just that seems to be a struggle for me sometimes.
Thanks so much to Heather for helping me do a self-check today and get back to what I love about me!
“Believe in yourself, your passions, and your dreams. Your voice is unique - build on that. Embrace what is different about you and make it your greatest asset!”
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8 thoughts on “What I Love About Me…”
Aww! What a good reminder, and one we all need from time to time! We’re not made to be just like everyone else we run into…
Thank you Rachel!! Exactly.. we are made to be exactly who we are differences and all.
This is such an insightful post! It’s absolutely important indeed that we find it in ourselves to love, who else, but ourselves! I still struggle with self worth from time to time, but I’m getting there!
Thank you Aileen! It is so very important even though I think we all struggle from time to time having the strength to keep learning and pushing is what’s important.
I have a problem with self-image. I haven’t always loved myself either. I have recently began to understand and appreciate the introvert within me. I always thought it was a bad thing but am learning that introverts are just as awesome as extroverts.
It can be a struggle. Reminding yourself daily that you are worthy of love especially your own is key. Introverts rock!! I had to learn that too. Being an extrovert doesn’t make someone better. We just approach things and situations differently. There’s nothing wrong with different!
This is such an awesome post, everyone should read this. Self worth is so valuable and is too often forgotten about. Loving who we are is what life is all about!
Thanks so much Cacinda!! It is so very important and unfortunately so easy to neglect. So very true! Love Always.