Instagram has become one of my favorite guilty obsessions. I love scrolling through the amazing images, reading the thoughtful and inspiring captions and giving that double-tape heart love. I was in the midst of doing just that today when I found this little gem and it sparked me to wonder What I Love About Me…
Heather explains that this image was sparked by her friend’s daughter’s struggle with self-worth. I went through a similar struggle with my daughter last year regarding her self-image. She was allowing herself to question who she wanted to be because she wanted others to like her – to be her friends. I think this is something all of us [women] have struggled with at some point. Men too but you know since I’m a girl and all – I’ll talk about us.
I dealt with the issue with my daughter and have since made it a point to always encourage her choices, desires and passions. I teach her that no matter what others think how she sees herself it was truly matters. She is who she is and I will love her always and in all ways. Yet why is it so hard for me to do the very same for myself?
[tweetthis]”…no matter what others think, how you see yourself is what truly matters.”[/tweetthis]
Self-love seems to be something I’ve always struggled with. As a child I was that nerd girl but instead of embracing it I ran from it.
First I tried to simply disappear into the shadows. “If they don’t notice me that won’t pick with me.”
*Didn’t work.
Then I tried to be like them. “If I act just like they do they’ll accept me”
*Fail.
Lastly I decided I would simply be bold and be me. “Whoever is meant to be my friend, will be.”
I hate how long it took for me to get to that decision but I am so happy I finally got there. It took years. Seriously people I was well into my late twenties before I realized that trying to be like them or invisible was too hard. It took so much effort I would be emotionally drained at the end of every day.
The moment I realized that once I accepted me others would too. Mind Blown! The entire time I was trying to not be me I was making it painfully obvious to everyone around me that I wasn’t ready. I wasn’t ready to be liked because I didn’t even like myself.
When I saw Heather’s post today it was after a week of second-guessing myself, my skills, my choices – me. I was sliding back into what seems to be my comfort zone of disbelief in who I can be. When I tell you her words hit me like a brick! If you see my comment my answer to her questions of one thing I like about me was as follows:
“I love that I’m a bit wonky and quirky but it just adds to who I am..”
It’s so amazing how the very thing we advise others to do seems to be the most difficult to do ourselves. I have a motto in one of my bios which basically tells everyone to embrace who they are and their uniqueness. Yet doing just that seems to be a struggle for me sometimes.
Thanks so much to Heather for helping me do a self-check today and get back to what I love about me!
“Believe in yourself, your passions, and your dreams. Your voice is unique – build on that. Embrace what is different about you and make it your greatest asset!”
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